Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Waiting On You!

I don't talk about just anyone, neither do I let out the fact that I am missing you or waiting for you seems obvious. Your name 'chukuchuku' is the password  for some official documents we both share.

The love I know I will have for you is going to be so powerful, I have already imagined how attentive I will be to ALL your needs.
 
I have made plans for all the cities of the world I want to show you, I have made plans for all the things we will create together.
 
I cannot wait to show you off to everyone and say that is my...
 
I know you are going to be awesome. I know I will be so proud of you when you accomplish all you want to do in life.
 
Truth is, I don't fret or worry about you like everybody else around me. I know you will come!
 
You are smiling at me, I can feel it. I already feel your love even though you are nowhere in sight. But like your name implies, you are noble.
 
You are not Faith talk, you are not my fantasy, you are real. 'Realer' than the air I breathe now even though I cannot feel you.
 
No one will love you like I will. No one will protect you like I will. No one will be firm with you like I will be. No one will tell you the truth more than I will.
 
I promise that I will always give you Truth & Love
 
I will be your rock, I will be your human strength, I will pray for you, I will hold you when you are blue, nothing will touch you through me.
 
Everything I do is for you. All of the sleepless nights, all of what I have endured is for you.
 
I know you will be just too good to be true.
 
I am already blessed with the wealth of knowing you will come. There is NOTHING anyone can say different.
 
My Joy, My love, My heartbeat, My deliciousness, My everything!
 
No matter how long it takes my darling, I will be waiting for you.

9 Reasons Why You Should Give A Hug Daily


The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind.

The reason is that a sincere hug produces a hormone called "oxytocin", also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety.

This wonderful calming is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, we cherish a particular kind of animal or pet,  we're dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or just hold the shoulders of a friend.
Hugging helps the immune system, cures depression, reduces stress and induces sleep. It’s invigorating, rejuvenating and has no unpleasant side effects. It is all natural, organic, naturally sweet, no pesticides, no preservatives, no artificial ingredients and 100 percent wholesome. There are no batteries to wear out, no periodic check-ups, low energy consumption, high energy yield, inflation proof, nonfattening, no monthly payments, theft-proof, nontaxable, nonpolluting and, of course, fully returnable. Hugging is practically perfect, with the only exception that it can’t recreate the wheel. Here are 9 reasons you need hugs everyday.
A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact.
1. STIMULATES OXYTOCIN
Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.
2. CULTIVATES PATIENCE
Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.
3. PREVENTS DISEASE
Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.
4. STIMULATES THYMUS GLAND
Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.
5. COMMUNICATION WITHOUT SAYING A WORD
Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.
6. SELF-ESTEEM
Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.
7. STIMULATES DOPAMINE
Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neurodegenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.
8. STIMULATES SEROTONIN
Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.
9. PARASYMPATHETIC BALANCE
Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centres called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system - parasympathetic.
Won't you start your day with a hug... For me hug it is every second of the day! :)
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Monday, January 13, 2014

BROKEN FEELINGS

She watched him as he was sweating and dancing between two slutty girls, one of the girls was in a pair of shorts that could pass for panties and the other one was in a gown that clung to her body accentuating all her curves, she suppressed the impulse to pull him from between them, she wanted to slap him on the face just to make sure he felt as much pain as she felt, her stomach was in a tight knot, her chest was on fire. The DJ changed the song to Wizkid’s ‘Pakurumo’ and she burnt with jealousy as one of the slutty girls started rubbing her ass all over his ‘thing’, she thought to herself, “this has to stop”. She ran into the bathroom to practice the breathing exercise Nife taught her, ‘inhale’ ‘exhale’, ‘inhale’ ‘exhale’. She felt slightly relieved, then, she splashed water on her face, the cold water gave her an additional soothing feeling. She prepared to go back to the dancehall, to face the devil she was running from - her emotions, she has nursed a crush for Diran Oladapo since they were kids and twenty years after, it feels like the crush was going nowhere. 

He saw her sitting at the bar, nursing her drink, her head dropped halfway on her chest like she was in deep thoughts, he wondered what was going on in her mind, he knew she was going to share with him, their friendship was that good they always had each other’s back, they are young adults now but it still feels like all those days when they ran around the compound in their undies, “how time flies” he thought. She was dressed in a low neck black gown, low enough for a little of her fair cleavage to be seen but lots was still covered to keep one wondering what the remaining looked like, the black gown looks good on her fair skin. 

Toyosi adeniran has been his friend since they were in pre nursery class, she was like one of his buddies because they always played ball together and wrestled each other to know who was stronger, she was a tomboy back in those days and seeing her transform into the lady she is still marvels him. He was dancing and walking towards her stepping to J-Martins’ Good or Bad, she had refused to dance so he was caught in the company of club whores, “thank God I am out now” he thought to himself. It’s been a long time since the last time they met and although they communicated all the time, he sure did miss having her around. There is a lot he wanted to tell her, he didn’t want to tell her over the phone ‘cause he wanted to see the expression on her face and watch her eyes sparkle as they do whenever she is excited. 

She can perceive him now, she knew he was near, the sweat wasn’t enough to mask the scent of his cologne, he always used Kenneth Cole’s Black since they were teenagers and that has become his signature scent. Her head was still bent over her drink, she didn’t want to face him now, whatever strength she got from the bathroom was exhausted and she was back under the dictate of her emotions. “How could he not know she was in love with him?” All those long calls and “I love yous”, “Does he think that was done just for friendship?” No one knows her like he does, didn’t he wonder why she never dated any of her ‘toasters’, she has every right to be mad at him, he made her fall for him and he has the right to act like he can’t see the pain he is putting her through?. Tonight is going to end it all, she made up her mind to chew and swallow her pride and tell Adediran she had always and is still in love with him. 

He pulled the highstool next to hers and sat down, he wanted to chase her around the bar and make her forget whatever was weighing her down like he used to do when they were little, they are grownups now, and so he will handle it the grown up way. 

“T-babe, what’s wrong”, he asked as he lifted her face to meet his. 

His touch made her quiver; she looked in his eyes and saw that concerned look she is all so used to, his lips look like a dull orange ‘cause of the club lightings, she wanted so much to kiss them. 

“T-Babe”, she heard him call again as he shook her lightly. 

“Why are you looking at me like that? Is there something you would like to share?” 

“I am sorry, it is nothing, just thinking about work,” she replied smiling sadly. As always, her guts had failed her and he will never know how in love with him she is. 

He searched her face, trying to be sure, nothing was really wrong; satisfying his curiosity, he accepted it was one of her moodswings. He wondered if it was the right time to tell her, “no time is the right time so I might as well tell her now”, he thought. 

“There is something I need to tell you”, he said, taking her hands in his as he shifted lightly on his stool, her heart was pounding so hard, she was scared it might tear her chest. 

He took a deep breath and had a look on his face that had never been there before. 

She thought to herself, “Does he feel that way too? How stupid have we been all these past years? Both of us feeling the same thing and not saying it?” she wanted to tell him, I feel it too but decided to hear him say it, happy that her pride as a lady will be saved. 

He finally spoke and said “I have found her”. 

A Friend's Courage!


In your eyes, reads the embrance for love, joy, happiness...
Has been replaced by Sorrow & pain from the past.
You worry for tommorow
Stagnant beckons
If you can’t live life for today.
The chance of a better tomorrow beclouds.

The rear view mirror is where you stare.
Not on the road ahead.
You don’t live a life of the living.
You live a life of the dead.
For the past is gone and won’t return.
Today is all you’ve got.

You need to live the life of the living
A life of joy, happiness and...
You seek the things you do not have.
But you really have a lot.
You are an hero, a leader, a mentor...
You'v got the streingth

There are so many of us who are crazy & cares about you
You truly are our world.
You'v’ sacrifice everything amist for us all
Your joy, happiness
You are our special Man.
An hero, a leader, a mentor...

Life’s got you down, but you’re not beaten.
You’re stronger than you think.
So take our love, our gift to you.
So that your heart won’t jerk.
For in you we see a friend
An hero, a leader, a mentor...

When you fall, you gather strength to rise again 
When you need a hand
I'll level my hand to carry you through
I'll share in your pain, sorrow, joy, happiness & success
I’ll carry you through this life.
I’ll take your pain and sorrow.
And all your ills and strife.

When you’re ready to walk again.
I’ll help you walk and hold your hand.
Remember, when You carried me when I fell.
You held me up until I was strong enough to stand.
Remember the Issues with Aro
Your words helped me gather courage to stand tall

So now my love, my time has come.
To stand tall for my best friend.
All the pain I know I’ll feel from you.
Will be worth it in the end.
When together we stand, we share
A friend's courage, i bore my hear

-Posh

xoxo da_diva ciao

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Friday, January 10, 2014

The Echoes Of Life



And there lays life vain promises
Our hopes lay
yearning patiently for the rays
Of sunlight to beckon
Our lives in the darkest phase
Held captive by the fate
For so long a time that there you wait
And our eyes have been blindfolded
Until the lid is lifted
We might never understand what we face
In life this race we run
Our Pursuit left to fate


Even though we understand the dance
We fail to pay attention to the lyrics that comes with the rhythm of the song
And soon we so lost in the rhymes
Confusion becomes the order of it all
Hope becomes what it seems to be
Yet determined on the road in an endless journey
In pursuit of total joy
Even when we have money
It never satisfies the heart
It never quietens the voice within us that cries
Against the vanity in our lives. 
The echoes of life
Is a road for the strong
Built in with determination and persistence

Until we see with our mind
We will continue to be blind
Till we learn the basics
Of living life with simplicity.

-Posh

xoxo da_diva

More Opportunities For The New Year

Song of the Day: Alright by Shiloh 


Hello all! I know it's been a while since my last upload... Been pretty busy lately with school work and meeting up with article deadlines. Hope we all adjusting to the new year, pretty sure some of us have made resolutions and promises for the year. Congratz if you have, and if you haven't, it's not late to start.

For me on my blog, I have been thinking of adding more content driven material to my blog. I'm aiming to help writers alike in any way I can. In an effort to do this, I will be posting opportunities, scholarships, contests to help young writers achieve their dreams where your work and writings can be known and publish. 

Also if you are a young writer, I will be most available to assist in proof reading your manuscripts. All you have to do is send me a mail: info.posche@gmail.com

Today I will share some: 

*Augury Books

Augury Books is currently looking for both full length poetry manuscripts and for short collections, and anticipate publishing at least one new title in each genre. Check out their website:



*On The Commons Magazine
                             http://onthecommons.org/magazine

Do give it a try... and feed me back if you need any clarity.

Also I will start publication of my short stories, titled "In the Mist of Life". It is a story about two affectionate lovers who fell in love unaware that they are actually step-siblings under the most unfair situation. The story delve into the so oo political and ethnic issues conversant in today African society- corruption, violence, ethnic strife and love. The main theme of the story will enter on how these daily happenings of life challenges affect ordinary life. I hope you find it as interesting as I am so excited to start. 

Stay tune to the first intro...Happy Reading!


xoxo... da_diva



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