The Birth Journal

Hello my dears and welcome back to my blog! Yeah it’s been ages, life has its toll on me, and most of all the arrival of my little man😊 has given life/living another beautiful experience to me. This and more other reasons ( relocation to a new country after my PhD studies) why I have been off from this blog. Adjusting to new life and environment was a bit of challenge; documenting, paper works and what have you.

Without no further Ado, as this post states, "The Journey" I will be sharing with you the changes in a new land and most of all the journey towards the arrival of "BamBam“, our God given Blessings. I will be taking you through everything about my pregnancy and the birth of Bambam. 

From the 16weeks of our little Star Life, it was clear that it would not be easy to keep our little one from getting to know the world around him for so long. How it all started, the Birth Journey will capture the journey sharing the good, the bad, the ugly and the scary😊, as such will be in episodes

The blog is free to read and provides insight into the course, the fear, and worries of motherhood, and also the beautiful experience this stage have to offer with a view of happiness. A thing i wish and pray every woman should experience.

Everything you read in the blog I experienced in real life and I would like to pass on to enrich your life 🙂, and share with other new mothers or expectant/expecting mothers.

Leave a comment, if you are interested in something deeper, how your experiences are or how I could be of help to you, or if you're a mom and need someone to talk to, or going through post partum depression. I am Here! 

Don't forget to subscribe via your email so each time I upload on the blog you get notified, feel free to share, comment and give a like. Till the next post.

All the best, 

Da Diva 

Xoxo😉

Invest In Yourself (Consideration for 2018)

"One great investment which you can always make, promising high returns, is in yourself. You are worth every ounce of it. Investing in yourself is never a waste of time and money". (Me)

True wealth emits its light from the inside to the outside; from you to those people around you. Investing in yourself will not just improve your own life, but the lives of those around you. Invest in yourself now to build yourself up for tomorrow. 

As I sit, putting pen to paper, sharing with you this little piece, let it be a reminder or a little token of awakening for the new year. Always remember, it does not matter how long a step it ake to discover yourself, in the end your future self will be forever grateful. 

Remember: You'll be around for much longer than any expensive thing you've bought or you'll ever buy; so invest in yourself. Whatever it takes to improve your substance. You are a substance; a magnificent substance to the human race. 

Hence, I am leaving you this little consideration for the New Year.

CONSIDERATIONS FOR 2018.    

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1. ON EARNING:
Never depend on single income. Make investment to create a second chance.
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2. ON SPENDING:
If you buy things you do not need, soon you will have to sell things you need.
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3. ON SAVINGS:
Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving.
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4. ON TAKING RISK:
Never test the depth of a river with both feet.
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5. ON INVESTMENT:
Do not put all eggs in one basket.
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6. ON EXPECTATIONS:
Honesty is a very expensive gift. Do not expect it from cheap people.
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7. Past is a waste paper, present is a newspaper, and future is a question paper. Come out of your past, control the present, and secure the future.
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8. When bad things happen in your life, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you or you can let it strengthen you.
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9. Our eyes are in the front because it is more important to look ahead than to look backwards.
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10. We use pencil when we were young, but now we use pens. Do you know why? Because mistakes in childhood can easily be erased, unlike now. 

Happy Holidays, see you all in 2018. 

Xoxo Da Diva ❤❤😍


#InvestInYourself #WiseChoice #Investment #YourFutureWillBeGrateful #Motivational #GoldenNuggetz #

Why Do We Read?

Asking question is one way to acquiring knowledge especially on things you do not have prior knowledge of. As such I've always asked myself questions. Last week, the question for me was: why do I read? I came up with some answers and quotations and thought I should share. For me;

I read to escape into unknown worlds to meet known and unknown people...

I've traveled the world twice over,
Met the famous; saints and sinners,
Poets and artists, kings and queens,
Old stars and hopeful beginners,
I've been where no-one's been before,
Learned secrets from writers and cooks
All with one library ticket
To the wonderful world of books.

~ Anonymous ~

Reading is a path into history unknown: past and future...

Books are the legacies that a great genius leaves to

mankind, which are delivered down from generation to

generation as presents to the posterity of those who are yet unborn,

~ Joseph Addison ~

To be called vast, well read...to know a bit of everything...

If you read a lot of books you are considered well read. But if you watch a lot of TV, you're not considered well viewed.

Lily Tomlin

Read not to contradict and confute; nor to believe and take for granted;

nor to find talk and discourse; but to weigh and consider.

Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed,

and some few to be chewed and digested:

that is, some books are to be read only in parts,

others to be read, but not curiously, and some few

to be read wholly, and with diligence and attention

~ Francis Bacon ~

Books are faithful friends...

He that loves a book will never want a faithful friend,

a wholesome counselor, a cheerful companion, an effectual comforter.

By study, by reading, by thinking, one may innocently

divert and pleasantly entertain himself,

as in all weathers, as in all fortunes.

~ Barrow ~

A book is good company.

It is full of conversation without loquacity.

It comes to your longing with full instruction,

but pursues you never.

~ Henry Ward Beecher ~

To view reality and escape from it...

All the best stories in the world are but one story in reality -- the story of escape.

It is the only thing which interests us all and at all times, how to escape.

~ Arthur Christopher Benson ~

When we read a story, we inhabit it.

The covers of the book are like a roof and four walls.

What is to happen next will take place within the four walls of the story.

And this is possible because the story's voice makes everything its own.

~ John Berger ~

There is no Frigate like a Book

To take us Lands away,

Nor any Coursers like a Page

Of prancing Poetry.

~ Emily Dickinson ~

To read is to live and to live is to read...

To read is to empower

To empower is to write

To write is to influence

To Influence is to change

To change is to live.

~ Jane Evershed ~

Read in order to live.

~ Gustave Flaubert ~

Let us hear from you: why do you read? Also share your favourite 'reading' quotes (would love quotes from Africans too)..

xoxo...kisses

 Da diva!

PhotoCredit: Google

 

NOVEMBER!

"Always be appreciative and grateful for every breathe and opportunity of another second spent. Indeed a miracle to behold, even as the next moment comes unknown". -bosybosyde

Thinking out loud, i whispered "oh yeah, its less than two months to the NEW YEAR". Within me, am over whelmed with joy, knowing how tough the journey this year has been. Coming this far, can only be by GOD's grace and His mercies.

My prayers for the remaining 55 days in 2017 to everyone is that, the mercy of God will overflow into your life, your home. Through out the remaining weeks, your mornings will be good, your afternoons will be great, your evenings will be glorious and your nights will be peaceful in Jesus name.

The goodness and mercy that has no bound which cometh from above will encompass you.

The Lord will open the heavens each day to water your ground, keep you evergreen, blooming and flourishing in his fruitfulness. To everyone going through tough and challenging trials, He will banish the sorrows and soon you have a good laugh and a course to rejoice and share your testimony.

By His grace in the days ahead, no weeping, no mourning, no regrets, no lamentations, no untimely deaths and no loss in your household.

Angels of blessings will visit you each of the 55 days with packages of miracles, breakthrough, signs and wonders. They will grant you unceasing celebrations and testimonies🙏🙏🙏.

To you November, welcome!

~da_diva

Its All About Persistence!

Its been like forever around here. No i did'nt ignore the blog, nor was it forgotten that i have one. But life sometimes has its way of taking its toll on us all. Above all, am happy to say i conquered and much happier to find my writting pen again. I hope you enjoy this little pieces i'd put together while away.

Be persistent my friends, cos life is about persistence.

Enjoy!

As my friend was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not. My friend saw a trainer nearby and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

"Well," he said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free." My friend was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before? So make an attempt to grow further.... Why shouldn't we try it again?


"YOUR ATTEMPT MAY FAIL, BUT NEVER FAIL TO MAKE AN ATTEMPT."

Thanks for your time and reading, check out my blog: www.bosydeprincessa.blogspot.com for some interesting stuff.

Ciao!

-Posh

kisses da_diva!

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Causes of Irregular Periods in Women

Good day friends, subies and fam.

Hope you are all doing amazingly great. Miss you all so much. However, today we will be looking at 'Causes of Irregular Periods' in women.

Oligomenorrhea is a medical term which generally refers to irregular or infrequent menstrual periods with interrvals of more than 35 days. The duration may vary from 1 person to the other. Menstral cycle can be disturbed if one changes the method of contraception, or have an imbalance of the hormones oestrogen & progesterone.

Some gynecologists posits that, It is not unusual to have a hormone imbalance for a few years after puberty & before the menopause & this can cause ones menstrual cycle to become longer or shorter. 

Additionally, The periods may also become lighter or heavier as well, said Dr. Rebat. He mentioned, that if the individual irregular menstrual periods are caused by these age-related factors mentioned above, then you will not usually need to see your Doctor or take any medication to correct it. Although the following listed causes should be taken into observation which are more likely causes of irregular menstrual periods;

Lifestyle

The following lifestyle factors can upset your balance of hormones and cause irregular bleeding:

*Extreme weight loss or weight gain

*Excessive exercise

*Stress ( click here to read about how stress affects women fertility)

Contraceptives

An intrauterine system (IUS) or contraceptive pill may cause spotting between periods.

An intrauterine device (IUD) doesn’t cause irregular periods, but can cause heavy bleeding or painful bleeding. 

Small bleeds, known as breakthrough bleeds, are common when the contraceptive pill is first used.They are usually lighter & shorter than normal periods, & usually stop within the first few months.

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome

Polycystic OvarianSyndrome (PCOS) occurs when very small cysts (small, fluid-filled sacs) develop in the ovaries.

The usual symptoms of PCOS are irregular or light periods, or no periods at all. This is because, in women with PCOS, ovulation (the release of an egg) may not take place as often as normal.

Also, the production of hormones may  be unbalanced, &  you could have higher levels of testosterone than normal (this is a male hormone women normally have, about a small amount of).

Gynaecological problems

Irregular bleeding can also be due to unsuspected pregnancy, early miscarriage or problems with the womb or ovaries. Your Doctor may refer you to a gynaecologist if further investigation & treatment wil be needed.

Thyroid disorders

Poor thyroid function may cause the menstrual cycle to stop. An overactive thyroid that produces too many thyroid hormones is called Hyperthyroidism. Hypothyroidism is when the thyroid is underactive and does not produce enough thyroid hormones. An absent menstrual cycle is a sign of hyperthyroidism, where irregular or heavy cycles may be a sign of hypothyroidism.

Premature Ovarian Failure

POF, also known as Ovarian Hypofunction, is defined as a loss of normal ovarian function before the age of 40. The menstrual cycle may cease before the age of 40, or become sporadic. There are a variety of reasons this may happen.

Perimenopause and Menopause

Perimenopause is the time leading up to menopause. As perimenopause progresses toward menopause, it is normal for menstrual cycles to become irregular and for hormone levels to fluctuate. The menstrual cycle may become absent for many cycles and then suddenly come back for a couple cycles, and then come back again, becoming sporadic for some years. As ovarian reserve diminishes and egg health declines, FSH levels rise, the menstrual cycle will become more and more irregular, until eventually it stops.

Menopause is defined as absent menstruation for a year or longer. Menopause may also be confirmed by elevated FSH levels between 60 to 100mL/L on two tests done at least 1 month apart, &/or LH level greater than 50mIU/L & estradiol less than 50pg/mL. Natural therapies cannot reverse the aging process, or bring back d menstrual cycles in a woman who has already gone through, or is going through menopause.

When To Seek Medical Help

If you have not had a menstrual period for 3 consecutive cycles or more, it is time to make an appointment with your healthcare practitioner.

That's all for causes of irregular periods in women for this week.  Hope you all learnt a thing or two from it. Do kept a date with us regularly, as we sure promise you to expect something educative and exciting tomorrow.

Ciao. 

Da_diva.

How To Get Rid of Dark Cycle and Wrinkles.

A lot of people one way or the other has been faced with the challenges of treating dark cycles that appears below their eyelids. This occur due to stress and lack of sleep. Today I will be sharing one of the best natural methods to get rid and treatment for Dark Cycle and Wrinkles with the use of Turmeric.

Dark Cycle

Prepare a paste of turmeric and pineapple juice in a ratio of 1:1. Apply the thick paste underneath your eyes to lighten the dark circles.

Wrinkle-

Prepare a thick paste of turmeric with sugar-cane juice (ratio should be 1:1) and apply on face to remove wrinkles and blemishes.


*Do this everyday till u get your desired result! It has worked for many and they are thankful for it.

So, endeavor to keep us posted on your result. Till then, from me to you hugs and kisses.

Da diva

TAC- Merger Consulting Recruits Chief Operating Officer

TAC- Merger Consulting Recruits the hands of Chief Operating Officer for his Lagos branch. Able qualified candidates with at least over 5 years of managerial experience, PGD in bus admin, finance or equivalent (e.g. MBA, etc.)

Ages of 35 to 45 years with requisite professional qualifications.

Remuneration: Very Attractive & Negotiable.

Method of Application:

Candidates should email their detailed CV to info@tacgroupng.com, recruitment@tacgroupng.com on or before 18th February, 2015.

#da diva

Vacancy for An Operation Manager (PH)

StreSert required the hand of an experience operation manager in their Porthacourt office with the following requirements:

7 -10 years cognate experience in the insurance industry, especially in
the brokerage sub sector.

First degree in any discipline.
Possession of ACII or ACIIN is also imperative

Salary N2.5m and N3.m5 per annum (including status car, bonuses, &
very good career prospects)

SEND CVs:
‘mgtpositions@stresert.com’ using ‘OM-INSURANCE’ as subject of mail

Closing date: 16th February, 2015

Been a while!

              

Yeah, been a while. The challenges of life sometimes knock us down and we are face to leave other stuff of life and deal with it. Despite that, the ability to walk up straight again is what is important, knowing that we are immortal beings and are not perfect. In this times, I have grown and learnt and still learning, above all am back and happy to write again. I am deeply grateful for tolerance with my irregular disappearance from the blog...and must of all grateful for your support in every little way...or your valued time. I am also thanking you for....well, pretty much everything. Let's just say, my heart if filled to the top with gratitude. 

The blog is coming stronger and adding new segment to it. To all my "naturalistas" out there, this segment is for you. We will sharing the best regime for an healthy hair and healthy you. All together we build an healthy body, with a splendor of refreshing soul filling poems. Renewing our mind inside out. 

The blog will also will be featuring regular open job opportunities for job seekers out there, the aim is to help someone earn some income, we all understand how difficult it is getting that job especially when you don't know any "oga at the top". It will be my joy that this helps someone and that feedbacks are shared, when they come out success, hence we welcome feedback in the comment box below in the blog.

I feel excited already, knowing that someone is going to enjoy this fresh ride. So sit back relax and enjoy the ride of nature.

Much love and kisses.

Da_diva

👄

Photo Credit: Ms. Ebrü

Waiting On You!

I don't talk about just anyone, neither do I let out the fact that I am missing you or waiting for you seems obvious. Your name 'chukuchuku' is the password  for some official documents we both share.

The love I know I will have for you is going to be so powerful, I have already imagined how attentive I will be to ALL your needs.

 

I have made plans for all the cities of the world I want to show you, I have made plans for all the things we will create together.

 

I cannot wait to show you off to everyone and say that is my...

 

I know you are going to be awesome. I know I will be so proud of you when you accomplish all you want to do in life.

 

Truth is, I don't fret or worry about you like everybody else around me. I know you will come!

 

You are smiling at me, I can feel it. I already feel your love even though you are nowhere in sight. But like your name implies, you are noble.

 

You are not Faith talk, you are not my fantasy, you are real. 'Realer' than the air I breathe now even though I cannot feel you.

 

No one will love you like I will. No one will protect you like I will. No one will be firm with you like I will be. No one will tell you the truth more than I will.

 

I promise that I will always give you Truth & Love

 

I will be your rock, I will be your human strength, I will pray for you, I will hold you when you are blue, nothing will touch you through me.

 

Everything I do is for you. All of the sleepless nights, all of what I have endured is for you.

 

I know you will be just too good to be true.

 

I am already blessed with the wealth of knowing you will come. There is NOTHING anyone can say different.

 

My Joy, My love, My heartbeat, My deliciousness, My everything!

 

No matter how long it takes my darling, I will be waiting for you.

9 Reasons Why You Should Give A Hug Daily

The average length of a hug between two people is 3 seconds. But researchers have discovered something fantastic. When a hug lasts 20 seconds, there is a therapeutic effect on the body and mind.

The reason is that a sincere hug produces a hormone called "oxytocin", also known as the love hormone. This substance has many benefits in our physical and mental health, helps us, among other things, to relax, to feel safe and calm our fears and anxiety.

This wonderful calming is offered free of charge every time we have a person in our arms, who cradled a child, we cherish a particular kind of animal or pet,  we're dancing with our partner, the closer we get to someone or just hold the shoulders of a friend.

Hugging helps the immune system, cures depression, reduces stress and induces sleep. It’s invigorating, rejuvenating and has no unpleasant side effects. It is all natural, organic, naturally sweet, no pesticides, no preservatives, no artificial ingredients and 100 percent wholesome. There are no batteries to wear out, no periodic check-ups, low energy consumption, high energy yield, inflation proof, nonfattening, no monthly payments, theft-proof, nontaxable, nonpolluting and, of course, fully returnable. Hugging is practically perfect, with the only exception that it can’t recreate the wheel. Here are 9 reasons you need hugs everyday.

A famous quote by psychotherapist Virginia Satir goes, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.” Whether those exact numbers have been scientifically proven remains to be seen, but there is a great deal of scientific evidence related to the importance of hugs and physical contact.

1. STIMULATES OXYTOCIN

Oxytocin is a neurotransmitter that acts on the limbic system, the brain’s emotional centre, promoting feelings of contentment, reducing anxiety and stress, and even making mammals monogamous. It is the hormone responsible for us all being here today. You see this little gem is released during childbirth, making our mothers forget about all of the excruciating pain they endured expelling us from their bodies and making them want to still love and spend time with us. New research from the University of California suggests that it has a similarly civilising effect on human males, making them more affectionate and better at forming relationships and social bonding. And it dramatically increased the libido and sexual performance of test subjects. When we hug someone, oxytocin is released into our bodies by our pituitary gland, lowering both our heart rates and our cortisol levels. Cortisol is the hormone responsible for stress, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

2. CULTIVATES PATIENCE

Connections are fostered when people take the time to appreciate and acknowledge one another. A hug is one of the easiest ways to show appreciation and acknowledgement of another person. The world is a busy, hustle-bustle place and we’re constantly rushing to the next task. By slowing down and taking a moment to offer sincere hugs throughout the day, we’re benefiting ourselves, others, and cultivating better patience within ourselves.

3. PREVENTS DISEASE

Affection also has a direct response on the reduction of stress which prevents many diseases. The Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine says it has carried out more than 100 studies into touch and found evidence of significant effects, including faster growth in premature babies, reduced pain, decreased autoimmune disease symptoms, lowered glucose levels in children with diabetes, and improved immune systems in people with cancer.

4. STIMULATES THYMUS GLAND

Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body’s production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

5. COMMUNICATION WITHOUT SAYING A WORD

Almost 70 percent of communication is nonverbal. The interpretation of body language can be based on a single gesture and hugging is an excellent method of expressing yourself nonverbally to another human being or animal. Not only can they feel the love and care in your embrace, but they can actually be receptive enough to pay it forward to others based on your initiative alone.

6. SELF-ESTEEM

Hugging boosts self-esteem, especially in children. The tactile sense is all-important in infants. A baby recognizes its parents initially by touch. From the time we’re born our family’s touch shows us that we’re loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

7. STIMULATES DOPAMINE

Everything everyone does involves protecting and triggering dopamine flow. Low dopamine levels play a role in the neurodegenerative disease Parkinson’s as well as mood disorders such as depression. Dopamine is responsible for giving us that feel-good feeling, and it’s also responsible for motivation! Hugs stimulate brains to release dopamine, the pleasure hormone. Dopamine sensors are the areas that many stimulating drugs such as cocaine and methamphetamine target. The presence of a certain kinds of dopamine receptors are also associated with sensation-seeking.

8. STIMULATES SEROTONIN

Reaching out and hugging releases endorphins and serotonin into the blood vessels and the released endorphins and serotonin cause pleasure and negate pain and sadness and decrease the chances of getting heart problems, helps fight excess weight and prolongs life. Even the cuddling of pets has a soothing effect that reduces the stress levels. Hugging for an extended time lifts one’s serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

9. PARASYMPATHETIC BALANCE

Hugs balance out the nervous system. The skin contains a network of tiny, egg-shaped pressure centres called Pacinian corpuscles that can sense touch and which are in contact with the brain through the vagus nerve. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system - parasympathetic.

Won't you start your day with a hug... For me hug it is every second of the day! :)

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BROKEN FEELINGS

She watched him as he was sweating and dancing between two slutty girls, one of the girls was in a pair of shorts that could pass for panties and the other one was in a gown that clung to her body accentuating all her curves, she suppressed the impulse to pull him from between them, she wanted to slap him on the face just to make sure he felt as much pain as she felt, her stomach was in a tight knot, her chest was on fire. The DJ changed the song to Wizkid’s ‘Pakurumo’ and she burnt with jealousy as one of the slutty girls started rubbing her ass all over his ‘thing’, she thought to herself, “this has to stop”. She ran into the bathroom to practice the breathing exercise Nife taught her, ‘inhale’ ‘exhale’, ‘inhale’ ‘exhale’. She felt slightly relieved, then, she splashed water on her face, the cold water gave her an additional soothing feeling. She prepared to go back to the dancehall, to face the devil she was running from - her emotions, she has nursed a crush for Diran Oladapo since they were kids and twenty years after, it feels like the crush was going nowhere. 

He saw her sitting at the bar, nursing her drink, her head dropped halfway on her chest like she was in deep thoughts, he wondered what was going on in her mind, he knew she was going to share with him, their friendship was that good they always had each other’s back, they are young adults now but it still feels like all those days when they ran around the compound in their undies, “how time flies” he thought. She was dressed in a low neck black gown, low enough for a little of her fair cleavage to be seen but lots was still covered to keep one wondering what the remaining looked like, the black gown looks good on her fair skin. 

Toyosi adeniran has been his friend since they were in pre nursery class, she was like one of his buddies because they always played ball together and wrestled each other to know who was stronger, she was a tomboy back in those days and seeing her transform into the lady she is still marvels him. He was dancing and walking towards her stepping to J-Martins’ Good or Bad, she had refused to dance so he was caught in the company of club whores, “thank God I am out now” he thought to himself. It’s been a long time since the last time they met and although they communicated all the time, he sure did miss having her around. There is a lot he wanted to tell her, he didn’t want to tell her over the phone ‘cause he wanted to see the expression on her face and watch her eyes sparkle as they do whenever she is excited. 

She can perceive him now, she knew he was near, the sweat wasn’t enough to mask the scent of his cologne, he always used Kenneth Cole’s Black since they were teenagers and that has become his signature scent. Her head was still bent over her drink, she didn’t want to face him now, whatever strength she got from the bathroom was exhausted and she was back under the dictate of her emotions. “How could he not know she was in love with him?” All those long calls and “I love yous”, “Does he think that was done just for friendship?” No one knows her like he does, didn’t he wonder why she never dated any of her ‘toasters’, she has every right to be mad at him, he made her fall for him and he has the right to act like he can’t see the pain he is putting her through?. Tonight is going to end it all, she made up her mind to chew and swallow her pride and tell Adediran she had always and is still in love with him. 

He pulled the highstool next to hers and sat down, he wanted to chase her around the bar and make her forget whatever was weighing her down like he used to do when they were little, they are grownups now, and so he will handle it the grown up way. 

“T-babe, what’s wrong”, he asked as he lifted her face to meet his. 

His touch made her quiver; she looked in his eyes and saw that concerned look she is all so used to, his lips look like a dull orange ‘cause of the club lightings, she wanted so much to kiss them. 

“T-Babe”, she heard him call again as he shook her lightly. 

“Why are you looking at me like that? Is there something you would like to share?” 

“I am sorry, it is nothing, just thinking about work,” she replied smiling sadly. As always, her guts had failed her and he will never know how in love with him she is. 

He searched her face, trying to be sure, nothing was really wrong; satisfying his curiosity, he accepted it was one of her moodswings. He wondered if it was the right time to tell her, “no time is the right time so I might as well tell her now”, he thought. 

“There is something I need to tell you”, he said, taking her hands in his as he shifted lightly on his stool, her heart was pounding so hard, she was scared it might tear her chest. 

He took a deep breath and had a look on his face that had never been there before. 

She thought to herself, “Does he feel that way too? How stupid have we been all these past years? Both of us feeling the same thing and not saying it?” she wanted to tell him, I feel it too but decided to hear him say it, happy that her pride as a lady will be saved. 

He finally spoke and said “I have found her”. 

A Friend's Courage!

In your eyes, reads the embrance for love, joy, happiness...

Has been replaced by Sorrow & pain from the past.

You worry for tommorow

Stagnant beckons

If you can’t live life for today.

The chance of a better tomorrow beclouds.

The rear view mirror is where you stare.

Not on the road ahead.

You don’t live a life of the living.

You live a life of the dead.

For the past is gone and won’t return.

Today is all you’ve got.

You need to live the life of the living

A life of joy, happiness and...

You seek the things you do not have.

But you really have a lot.

You are an hero, a leader, a mentor...

You'v got the streingth

There are so many of us who are crazy & cares about you

You truly are our world.

You'v’ sacrifice everything amist for us all

Your joy, happiness

You are our special Man.

An hero, a leader, a mentor...

Life’s got you down, but you’re not beaten.

You’re stronger than you think.

So take our love, our gift to you.

So that your heart won’t jerk.

For in you we see a friend

An hero, a leader, a mentor...

When you fall, you gather strength to rise again 

When you need a hand

I'll level my hand to carry you through

I'll share in your pain, sorrow, joy, happiness & success

I’ll carry you through this life.

I’ll take your pain and sorrow.

And all your ills and strife.

When you’re ready to walk again.

I’ll help you walk and hold your hand.

Remember, when You carried me when I fell.

You held me up until I was strong enough to stand.

Remember the Issues with Aro

Your words helped me gather courage to stand tall

So now my love, my time has come.

To stand tall for my best friend.

All the pain I know I’ll feel from you.

Will be worth it in the end.

When together we stand, we share

A friend's courage, i bore my hear

-Posh

xoxo da_diva ciao

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The Echoes Of Life

And there lays life vain promises
Our hopes lay
yearning patiently for the rays
Of sunlight to beckon
Our lives in the darkest phase
Held captive by the fate
For so long a time that there you wait
And our eyes have been blindfolded
Until the lid is lifted
We might never understand what we face
In life this race we run

Our Pursuit left to fate

Even though we understand the dance
We fail to pay attention to the lyrics that comes with the rhythm of the song
And soon we so lost in the rhymes
Confusion becomes the order of it all
Hope becomes what it seems to be
Yet determined on the road in an endless journey
In pursuit of total joy
Even when we have money
It never satisfies the heart
It never quietens the voice within us that cries
Against the vanity in our lives. 
The echoes of life
Is a road for the strong

Built in with determination and persistence

Until we see with our mind
We will continue to be blind
Till we learn the basics
Of living life with simplicity.

-Posh

xoxo da_diva